yeah i tried looking up the rules after you said we're changing the rules for that home game...
http://www.readybetgo.com/poker/rule...rules-824.html
There are two basic schools of thought regarding rules for showing hands. The first is what I call the “traditional school.” The traditional rule in poker is that all hands at the showdown must be shown to the whole table upon request of anyone in the game. Those who wish to retain this rule recognize that it has drawbacks, but believe any rule controlling the showing of hands will have drawbacks. They also believe the new rules used in some places are inadequate to address the situation, so we should stick with what we have, needing the traditional rules to police the game and make the players feel comfortable that there is no collusion taking place.
The other school, which is steadily growing, is what I will call the “revisionist school,” which states that we need to take a fresh look at the situation and realize that it is better to eliminate non-winning hands from being shown. This school believes the showing of non-winning hands is of minimal value in the prevention of cheating (because cheaters can simply muck their hands before the final bet) and adds a great deal of unpleasantness and friction to the atmosphere of playing.
i'm not exactly sure if that's right or what... and i don't really get that "revisionist school" method.
anyone else know anything?