That turn bet is gonna get raised a ton, for that reason you can't fold imo.

A more standard $10-11 bet getting shoved on would be an easier fold.

I think I call and then you have to make a crying river call on a non spade, obv call a spade

Calling is probably better than shoving, you at least let him bluff you and there's not a ton of scary river cards for you.

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